Youve shown your love for her and she knows that. We r loving since 5-6 years! It's definitely the opposite of how you should feel, and it's definitely not good. she undergoing medications and therapy but nothing could help her. Compatibility Mechanical: 64 Bit (x64) When I have some me time to save my soul from drowning because of her, she said that I was selfish for leaving her for, like, a day! She will text or call me out of blue and tell how much she appreciates my patience with her. Been experiencing something very similar in my relationship, I have been helping my girlfriend with her anxiety and depression for years as well and its been so long that often I feel down and hopeless too. I strongly encourage you to begin your own therapy. That takes incredible patience and compassion, but it can also take a toll on you. Im so hurt lately, and she doesnt give it a mind, and she doesnt barely talk to me on the late days. Every time we go out she freaks out. Youre so much less experienced and you know so much less than you think, Im not saying that as a criticism at all, Im sure youve been through more than I can imagine, but people have gone through this before and somehow got passed it to live their life for decades and decades. Shes most likely cheating already, I mean think about their history as if the ex hasnt tried to make a move on her. A. I have been through many websites reading about relationship breakdowns when a partner is depressed and the most common thing is how the non depressed partner is feeling totally drained and feel their life has gone down hill leading them down the road to depression. "Trust is lost and conflict often results in anger and finger pointing." First two years went well. 1992 - Video directed by Dani Jacobs. Good luck! I am trying to help her but I could not help anymore than this.i could concentrate on caring myself, could not eat or sleep well. I am essentially a caretaker now. About me and my girlfriend! Dont worry youre not alone! We read your comment, and we hear your frustration and unhappiness. I am afraid that if I leave she will kill herself, she is completely obsessed with me and I cant escape. Very often, when one takes on the role of caretaker, it becomes such a consuming task that the caretaker loses touch with himself/herself. I Feel Helpless! And in one point of last month,she gave me a talk about how love is stupid and its just a distraction and that it doesnt last forever. To me all of these modern mental issues we see are a result of too much free time, too many choices and the conveniences we enjoy. All efforts made on my part were in vain. I am trying to help her but I could not help anymore than this.i could not concentrate on caring myself, could not eat or sleep well. The act of moving things out can be difficult to deal with. Setup Type: Offline Installer / Full Standalone Setup. After everything I did, I have been there every single day, sharing my life with her, and pushing her away from this disease. Its created a weird dynamic in our relationship which has all but ruined our sex life. I still see him he wrote 2 suicide notes to me and his dad ( when I asked him to leave) and produced them for me to read. I try not to put pressure on her to be a certain way or accomplish a certain thing in a given day, but when the time comes when there is actually a really important thing she needs to do, and shes not able to do it, i feel i end up hurting her and not helping. Hi guys I too often fall into the trap of framing things positively instead of just being there for her and just acknowledging her pain. Ching, I thank the universe for you, and you for your response. So you see, these emotions are complicated, you have trace them few steps back to understand what is really going on. SO IF YOU HANG AROUND PEOPLE LIKE THIS YOU WILL TAKE ON THEIR THINKING AND HABITS MAKE NO MISTAKE ABOUT IT. His moods got worse, we have to do whatever he wants to do, I am too scared to loose him but Ive already lost myself, I dont recognise myself anymore I was once this girl who didnt need anyone, kept everything to herself, let medication deal with my emotions now I sit and cry myself to sleep and feel so hopeless. From past one to two years I came to know.Now it becomes severe.she suffers from anxiety , bipolar disorder. It's not fun for either party, and it's definitely a sign that things aren't entirely healthy. I m still jobless for more than 2yrs thinking about her problems all the time.i can marry her after getting a good job.i feel like my life is hell and but I am not selfish too. If you haven't been feeling like yourself lately, your romance may be to blame. Second, if nothing changes over time let it go. Now dont get me wrong, I get shes depressed and I feel for her, but I used to never have outbursts in my relationship period, and by now, 8 years in, the only way to make her stop taking all of her aggressive-depression(not that shed get violent, but yell on the most absurd things)/anxieties on me is to stoop down to her level and shout back, which then makes me feel like a jerk, she (almost) never say sorry, and for everytime she yells at me, somehow at the end I have to apologize or shell frown at me forever (claiming everything is fine, but obviously is it) On the weekends shes distant and will not talk to me, or very minimally, throughout the weekend. I love her so much and wish I could take her pain away, but I feel ive lost myself and no longer feel happy. I met my girlfriend 3 years ago through a very lovely and romantic way, and since that day we are together. I beat my depression, i became happy again but after a year with my gf and trying to care for her depression i can feel it creeping back again. But youre so young and its not very obvious but so many people go through this at some point in their lives because life truly is pretty messed up. We have to get our sh#t together or be ok with being alone and broke or God forbid settle for the girl were all here talking about. She also started to talk about other guys and how they were getting close to her (which i actually found out the guys she was talking about liked her aswel) but when i ask her to not do anything misleading with them, she started arguing with me and saying i wasnt trusting her. Remember the love bit. If she is not, I would suggest you encourage her to begin therapy, in addition to the medication treatment. Good looking, good healthy cooking. I agreed but this has left me with nothing to do, leaving my friends was a massive mistake! So tell someone, it wont just save her life, but also yours. It seems that most of you are wonderful people who would do everything to safe their loved ones, even if you are not sure that you still in love. Even though we are long distance, I am finding it impossible to go on, and as I am at university, if I keep this up my grades are going to slip. You are in a relationship, you two must have had a reason to be with eachother. Consider suggesting that she talk about these possibilities with her psychiatrist and therapist (if she has one). 16 Hard Launch Caption Ideas That'll Break The Internet, These 3 Zodiac Signs Are The Biggest Flirts, According To Astrologers, 45 Quotes Thatll Inspire You During Womens History Month, Get Even More From Bustle Sign Up For The Newsletter. I really don't know the best way if breaking it to her and I don't wanna do anything that I'll regret 3 28 28 comments Add a Comment AutoModerator 8 mo. She also will fail in it, many times, probably hurting you, but she will go on. Good Luck Everyone. Every time I look at her pics, I am immediately in love again by seeing her smile but in person all I am thinking of is an exit strategy despite all the caring in the world. Welcome to Tissue Issues, an advice column from comedian Ash . It also seems like you have come to the realization that this situation is not sustainable and that something must change. We started dating a few months after the divorce and (I admit we could have been more responsible of our actions) she is now pregnant with our first child. WE ARE ALL A PRODUCT OF OUR ENVIRONMENTS. I get it, youre both on the brink every second that goes by and it feels like thats all there is and ever will be. I live with her in college and my exams have not been going well. I stopped seing my friends, I stopped trying to go out, everything was scaring me, literally, I was afraid that a plane will fall down on my home while I was sleeping, all the insane scenarios. I m still jobless for more than 2yrs thinking about her problems all the time.i can marry her after getting a good job.i feel like my life is hell and but I am not selfish too. If she did you would know. As time went on our texts started to get more and more one sided as i would ask about her day and i would help her with any problems she had, but she would always start complaining about her problems and never actually talking about mine. If your partner isn't nice, or loving, or supportive in any way, it can leave you feeling perfectly drained of energy. We do talk through alot of things and have a somewhat open dialogue, but I still feel resentful and angry when i feel shes not there for me, something i dont seem to get over, despite wanting to. I am very caring, soft spoken and outspoken. Be willing to provide physical assistance. I did every single thing that you guys have written here. I feel as much like a caretaker as I do a boyfriend. You are NOT responsible for the thoughts, feelings, or behaviors or others. No one feels superior or inferior to the other." Tristen, Armand, sounds like your girlfriends have real life boyfriends too. I am going through the same. If I talk in a neutral tone or raise my voice even slightly she says I am scary and becomes inconsolable. Here are 10 who are holding you down. There has to be solutions. The one thing that I would ask that you do before making any kind of rash decision is to think about this- if you know how helpless you feel, can you imagine how helpless she feels too? But of course this isn't the case in an unhealthy relationship. And that is the hard and painful task to face the truth, because depression is, for me at least running away form truth, avoiding to face it. My suggestion is start having a quality of life before it is to late , love is wonderful when it is growing but it can be hell if it is one sided. And it started to bring me down even more. I have high blood pressure because of her. Bishop Blurz. She questioned our status, then says if we are a couple we should act like one (she is always busy and making plans with friends so I leave her be) which she doesnt like. As Dr. Sylvie Stacy said on Livestrong.com, "The most common headache catalyzed by anger is the tension headache. But I feel so guilty and ashamed and like a failure for wanting this and I dont know what to do. Sorry if I sound morbid but its devastating. A few months ago she began self harming, and I apparently did something to upset her and she started talking about how she was going to commit suicide because of it. I still dont know what to do and I feel terrible. Shawna Potter) Jim Ward. Me and my LDR girlfriend were originally together for 7 months, then took a break for 3, and now we are back together. Be found at the exact moment they are searching. A woman goes through a break up, she goes out, cries half the time and gets her drinks paid for all night and has her choice of a half a dozen guys fighting over her. I had a 3 month relationship with a depressed woman and it was comparable to a roller coaster ride at Disney land ups and downs it was beyond this world everything was my fault problems was created and misery was the icing on the cake. "Healthy, happy relationships are where both partners meet each others' physical and emotional needs," says relationship etiquette expert Mara Opperman, in an interview with Bustle. Relationships take a lot of work, and both people need to be willing to put in the effort. So it can really, truly suck when you realize your relationship is dragging you down. Its a selfish decision either way. ", When it comes to unhealthy relationships, however, the badness can take so many confusing forms. I hope my thoughts are helpful in any way, i cant let her go and i know she cant let me go either. But she wouldnt want to talk some nights. "So, yes, your relationship problems could lead you to suffering from high blood pressure." Assistir Sheffield Utd X Tottenham - Ao Vivo Grtis HD sem travar, sem anncios. Basically, she pretty frequently attends fancy. See what I mean? I wanted to cope with it on my own, I thought that I would be finally feeling proud of myself if I could fix myself. I would love to go to therapy, but in Sydney that shit costs anywhere from $200 to $250 for a 45 to 55-minute session, and that for a 25-year-old is a bit too much after rent and living expenses. Is it over? At the end of the day, I just believe that depression was just an excuse. Send a package with love letters or get some flowers delivered to her house. Dont worry too much about your girlfriend saying that you shouldnt talk to her anymore. I consider myself in recovery. i dont know what to do. Ive got a life, I want to be happy, to love, I am strong, I am bold, and I cant seem like to help her anymore, she doesnt want to, shes just getting away from me, Im losing her. These people are emotionally selfish they may not do it on purpose but they will take away everything that defines you and then you will be a empty shell . Start praying to God, together with your girlfriend. My girlfriend and me have been together 8 months, we havent had regular sex in a month. But she keeps going back to him for friendship,what the eff am I for her now? you're being dragged down by your partner, suddenly feel yourself worrying constantly, the balance between sleep and wakefulness, leave you feeling perfectly drained of energy. I also have depression. 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